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Friday 24 August 2012

Road Trip


 
Having decided to have a change from going to the Isle of Skye and previously completing a trip around the Lakes and Dales without booking we embarked on another road trip. We felt we had to part book due to the things we wanted to do. 

We always laugh about before I could drive and when we went on holiday via trains and buses. We certainly didn’t take the amount we now pack into the car! Warm clothing; cool clothing; a variety of footwear; hoodies; waterproofs and emergency food!

So day one setting off from Aisha’s house we drove up to Beamish in Durham and not Northumberland as I found out when I stated this on Twitter and the lynch mob came for me! We had been there twice before; once when there was only the town and pit village built; then when the manor house was being built and they had added the farm and this time with the manor house complete and the locomotive running; can’t wait for them to finish the church. I’d read about them salvaging it but couldn’t believe that had been 20 years previously and although the shell was built they need millions more for completion. 
We had a bit of a wait to get in but not too bad considering it’s the school holidays! It cost £17.50 a ticket but that lasts for 12 months so we will definitely be returning as it’s not too far to go. We arrived at lunchtime and to beautiful sunshine. Only stopping to eat sitting on the grass we spent 5 hours there. It was great to see how giddy Aisha was; glad to see the little girl is still in there!                                                                                                               There are a number of trams and trolley buses to get around so our first stop was the locomotive. After setting down there is a short walk to where a locomotive runs a short journey and we were fortunate to have information narrated by a very humourous worker covered in coal dust!  Love steam locomotives and no I don’t have memories of when they used to run like that although the 5 hour journeys from Hull to London in the 70s weren’t far from it!                                                                                                                                     After a few photo shots and trip to the loo, luckily plenty dotted about, we then embarked on a return walk to the road and up another path to the manor house with someone demonstrating spinning with a large, old spinning wheel and another baking biscuits in the kitchen. Upstairs was larger than expected with a bedroom containing double & single bed then through to another small bedroom with single bed; a bedroom with a four poster bed and a bathroom with metal bath. There was also a room for the wheat to dry out and another hanging meat mainly still whole; pheasants etc unfortunately real for authenticity!Fortunately we were ready to move on just as a number of loud, boisterous children appeared; I mean really who lets children in!                                                                           Back on another tram and into the town. It was much quieter than expected so easy to get round. We went into the newly build Masonic hall, eat your heart out Dan Brown! Then into the bank where the ‘banker’ was relaying stories and I had a moment of feeling old with pre-decimalisation money that I remembered well! Then over to the Co-operative with again many products I remembered well, a place holding old motor vehicles, a hardware store and a haberdashery. Now this did bring back memories as I worked at a place in Hull, called Kestenbaums, when I was still at school for a Saturday job; this sold reams of material often to foreigners who were docked there making the most of duty free.                                          We couldn’t delay the inevitable any longer so straight over to the sweet shop where queues became an unknown to many there! Into the back watching honeycomb  being made alongside grasping hands into the free samples, no taking of a small piece there but handfuls being scooped up! Don’t you just love the British greed! We waited and eventually the plate was emptied of crumbs and germs and fresh larger chunks put out of which we managed to grab a piece each ahead of the next vultures!                                               Feeling rather thirsty, of course that was the reason, we went into the pub that also enabled a chance to sit down. One of the few remaining pubs still selling pickled eggs and pickled onions on the counter, I didn’t partake and the drinks were at today’s prices, cheek!               From there we sauntered past the houses of the dentist, solicitor etc and to the railway station. Nothing was running but we enjoyed the peace of being the only people there, others were by-passing to go to the fair rides. We went into the ladies to discover they weren’t for use just for show with old style wooden long seat with hole cut out leading to a dry pit. No wonder people wonder about folks north of Watford!!!                                      Back into town in time for the final lift back to the exit. Up some steps, through the shop and out to the car park.                                                                                                                For those who have never been there is far more to see including the pit village with the school, the farm and printers.
Having spoken to @RichardHesketh1 on Twitter our place to stay was recommended, The Old Post Office at Warkworth in Northumberland, so not too far to go. We managed to park opposite and entered to a very warm welcome. Having taken in our cases we quickly changed and went to find the recommended place to eat. This was Zecca in Amble.             It was busy for a Tuesday evening but we were able to be seated. We were amused by 3 women on the adjacent table, 1 in particular who couldn’t take her eyes off us! In previous years this would have annoyed me but these days I find it amusing and we just played to it offering her a photo to take away!                                                                                         We had breads with olive oil and balsamic for starters but couldn’t eat it all, I think they were serving the same amount for each table no matter how many were seated. Aisha had a margherita pizza that came with a lovely thin base and I ordered the squash cannelloni and although the menu stated in an onion cream sauce it was in a cheese sauce but was delicious. We were too full for desserts with Aisha taking half away in a box.                      We got chatting to our waitress to discover she is about to become a student at Leeds University so were able to tell her of the student life she could expect, hopefully we allayed some of her fears or maybe she’ll change her mind!                                                          With full stomachs we returned to the B&B. I was initially concerned I may not sleep being on the main street and having the window open due to the heat but all the walking and fresh air had knocked me out!                                                                                                        Breakfast next morning and soya milk provided as requested with choice of cereal followed by 2 different vegetarian sausages, mushrooms, tomato and beans in a separate bowl on the plate keeping everything neat. The eggs were from their own hens but due to attempting to go vegan we declined. There was 1 other component described as a hash brown but it was actually a small rosti but seasoned with something, we both left these but didn’t mention it as the rest of the breakfast was lovely. We then had toast, paid the bill, packed the car and on our way.

The next stop was over to Lindisfarne after checking tide times again and again, somewhere else we hadn’t visited for years. There is now a car park for tourists and although on the edge not far from the centre. We did discover there were places we could have parked but can understand why they don’t want the roads packed. We walked around and felt it was much smaller than we remembered. There are places to see; the Lindisfarne Centre; Lindisfarne Priory and Lindisfarne Castle all with entrance fees. We looked around the few shops but didn’t go in any tourist places, taking photos from the outside. We walked part way to the castle and sat in the sun by the sea. We had gone over at low tide in the morning and couldn’t return until 5.00pm at low tide again. The time went much quicker than expected. We did visit the Lindisfarne Mead and having tasted the new version, bought some! Many years ago I bought a mini bottle of mead but only ever tasted a small amount to discover although of honey taste it was very thick and not to my liking, oh how it has changed. Now it’s much thinner, clearer and more of a thin liqueur. I also got a Celtic throw.
Once the waters had parted it was back onto the mainland and up to Hawick in the Scottish Borders. We wanted to arrive in time for the evening meal. The place we stay is Whitchester Christian Retreat and anyone who follows me on Twitter will know I’m not religious but we absolutely love this gem of a place. On the many occasions we have stayed we have met many different people from different religions, none of whom have been overt and on one occasion we sat in the lounge enjoying the guitar playing from the prayer room. From the first visit they have kept a card with dietary needs and this has meant we have been able to go with no worries about food. We have stayed at different times of the year and many times between Christmas and New Year. We hadn’t been for about 4 years. We were greeted by a man and my first question was whether Evelyn was still there, no she had left last December. At this we were a little worried as she had been there a long time with a warm welcome and great cooking. The guy’s wife came through and talked to us about the food situation, she was a little concerned having only taken over in May and probably not having to accommodate the likes of us before. No worries she managed extremely well. I had soup and Aisha had melon for starters and I had a carrot & cashew loaf with vegetables with Aisha having a pasta dish with vegetables, ironically if she had adapted the recipe slightly the carrot & cashew loaf could have had the onion omitted and suited us both. However as previously, the food was lovely. Dessert was plum crumble with vegan ice cream.                  We discovered through chatting that the woman, Joan, was wheat free so that was easy as was the dairy free situation. A woman staying there was also vegetarian so we didn’t feel too obscure!                                                                                                                              There were also two ladies together and an older couple. We were quite humbled by them as we overheard her saying she had never had asparagus and referred to the kale as spinach. Through chatting we discovered it was their first visit there and when we explained our road trip she thought us very adventurous, even more so when I said that on our return I was to have a flying lesson. The woman who was alone had had quite an eventful life. Everyone was so lovely.                                                                                                        It’s hard to describe being there, it’s the peacefulness and quiet no matter how many people are staying. No TVs in the rooms means reading time and a sensible amount of sleep. Thursday morning and breakfast of cereal, beans on toast followed by toast and honey.  This was served by Heather who had been there for many years and filled us in on the changes there had been and the difficulty finding someone to replace Evelyn after 25 years; she also gave us Evelyn’s phone number.                                                                                 We had booked 2 nights knowing we wouldn’t rush around but relax. I didn’t want to drive too far so we went into nearby Craike Forest. We parked up and went for a wander then back to the car to sit and read. This was a luxury as our holidays are always so action packed. We had taken lunch and sat at a picnic table in the sun. There were only a few people around so we could enjoy the peace. It’s a place that conserves red squirrels (not like in a jam!) but unfortunately we never saw any. Suddenly the heavens opened as we packed everything into the car but it didn’t last long. We drove to another area to pop to the loo and picked up a leaflet about the forest to discover a walk about a mile long to a waterfall. The sun was shining again so off we went. It was a lovely walk with a pounding waterfall at the end, all the rivers were fast flowing from the amount of rain there has been this year.                                                                                                                              Driving back to Hawick we kept looking at the inviting river running at the side of the road. That road is very narrow and any pull in places are for passing. Luckily we found an area where we could park by a track to a field across the river. The river was in two parts with a bit of an island in between where the tractor would be able to cross. It was fast flowing but we decided to have a paddle. It was warm with the sun shining and enough breeze not to be stifling. It wasn’t deep but deeper than I could roll up my jeans for so off they came whilst Aisha put her cossie on having left mine in the case! So the paddle became a wade and then a sit down in the river. Had there been a deeper part close by the wild swimming list would have grown. I have to say we were in full view of the road but only about 3 passing cars got to enjoy the treat!!!                                                                                                   We popped into town to fill up with petrol and tried to phone Evelyn but had to leave a message then back to Whitchester, in time to change for tea again. I had a lovely broccoli soup but again Joan made work for herself by making a different one for Aisha rather than serving us all the same; leek & mushroom risotto with vegetables and a gorgeous honey & cocoa sponge with ice cream. Ironically the bean chilli and rice was what Joan expected us to eat but it didn’t go to waste as others chose it. We had totally confused her as she had read on the card no mushrooms but that was for the one time Craig went. Joan had asked if we liked beans, yes; rice, yes; then said that she would have to add something for flavour and suggested chilli although we did suggest herbs too. Ironic that the simple leek and mushroom risotto was fine whether carnivore, vegetarian or vegan! Think she was overthinking things but only with the very best of intentions!                                                The phone signal is hit and miss and when we returned to the room picked up a message from Evelyn, sorry to have missed us and just back from Edinburgh. Again the rest of the evening was spent reading and a good night’s sleep.                                                            After breakfast we settled the bill and left phoning Evelyn again. We arranged to meet in a cafĂ© and chatted for about 2 hours, it was lovely to see her.

So straight up to Edinburgh, stopping only to eat lunch, in the car; we were carrying rice cakes, pate and crisps. We found the place where we were staying, glad to get somewhere having booked very last minute. This part of the trip was prompted by @mrstevenallen on Twitter and wanting to go to see his show, Some News, having featured on his podcast. Well what can I say, we were greeted by a small chap in bare feet and very verbal and immediately I thought of ‘four in a bed’. I distinctly remember someone walking round in bare feet! He explained about the proximity of the buses and that there was an ipad and laptop available in the dining room. We had been looking forward to the use of wifi but realised this was the option. He made a passing remark that the dining room contained 2 tables less than the number of guests…would we even get breakfast! Then the room, obviously a family room with 2 double beds and a single with small shower room. It was fine but would have benefitted from the removal of 1 double bed. The chap, Kenny, highlighted the X Box in the room. As he left we noticed the brown sheets, again another feature on one of the programmes and the fabulous satin style duvet covers and pillowcases, mmm!!!  We were only going to sleep in it for 1 night so we could cope. Had we read Trip Advisor we would have missed a comedic treat! We were lucky to get a parking place in a small side road as this place, Mayfield Lodge, is on a main road with double yellow lines. We took in our cases to the room and left to catch a bus into the centre.                                               So we got off the bus and in amongst the Fringe Festival. The first street performer we stopped to watch was performing right next to a gold post box….photo opportunity. Then we went to the booking office to collect our tickets and a wander down the Royal Mile.  Normally being accosted every half a metre would have been frustrating but this was a show in itself as people weren’t only dishing out leaflets but giving lots of information about each show and some from the performers themselves.                                                                           We had already found the location of Captain Taylor’s Coffee House where the Some News show was. It was an early show at 5.30p.m.so we went downstairs and when the room was emptied from the previous show we got a seat. Then Steven came in to set up and I was able to introduce myself, another tweeter met in real life! The show was very funny and topical. The audience was asked if anyone was in a relationship and for how long, someone stated 9 months and Aisha stopped everyone in their tracks by saying 13 years. The look on Steven’s face was price-less, he then asked me her age! Our family genes have caused some hilarious situations!  An hour of laughter away from reality!                                      From here we went to find a restaurant we had found on the Internet and with no bookings taken during the fringe we knew we needed to get there quickly. We arrived at David Bann to a small queue. 2 people were shown to a table leaving a group of 3 and another couple. The turnover was quick without anyone looking like they were rushed through their meal. Soon we were seated and not driving I was able to have a lager. Being a vegetarian restaurant there was plenty of choice and all ingredients were listed. We had starters of broccoli and smoked tofu fritters with banana chutney and plum sauce. Hard to express…gorgeous, so tasty; followed by aubergine, cashew & chick pea koftas with coriander rice, pineapple chutney and yoghurt raita, this was another vegan dish and many chefs can learn a lesson from this along with the cynics who ask ‘what do you eat’! Dessert was orange segment jelly on a lemon cake with coconut sorbet and Amaretto soaked figs. We need 1 of these restaurants in Leeds!                                                                                                  We rolled out of there and having seen no bus stops with the number bus we expected to take back we caught a black cab! We would have loved to walk around longer or possibly take in another show but we were stuffed!  A bit of TV that night then sleep!                      And so to breakfast; I questioned Kenny as to whether I had mentioned soya milk, having sorted a number of places, apparently I had. He then appeared with a carton and placed it on the table. We were eating cereal wondering why we hadn’t been asked what cooked breakfast we wanted. We heard a couple at another table request no beans etc and wondered what to expect. Well our bowls were removed and then our breakfast arrived; an egg, about 6 beans, half a tomato; a couple of mushrooms and dubious looking sausage. I asked if it was vegetarian not remembering if I’d mentioned this over the phone on booking. The response ‘oh yes they certainly taste vegetarian’ in a derogatory manner followed by stating he had had so many vegetarians that the next ones would be on Quorn having used the pack of 75 catering ones! Well shame we weren’t a day later as at least we know what is in Quorn. Poor Aisha left her sausage after 1 taste so only ate the 6 beans….I ate the sausage but still wasn’t sure about it and even ended up eating the egg! At least there was plenty of toast including a muffin!                                                                                     Whilst eating this a man and woman appeared and Kenny said ‘I told you to come down at 7.45am’ at which there was a quiet titter until he followed it by saying ‘I’m not joking there’s only 1 table for 4, you should have come down earlier, you’ll have to come back!’ Uncomfortable and we were glad we were leaving! We got our things together and decided to pay in cash, being quicker. As he was still busy running around we waited patiently and the 2 people reappeared for their breakfast, what we couldn’t understand was the fact that there were only 2 of them not 4 and earlier there had been 2 tables spare. Kenny did comment to another table that they were Russian…great example of UK hospitality for them! Whilst standing there we also spotted the half hidden wifi password!                             I asked for the bill and he said ‘£90 to you’…funny as that would be the same price to anyone, however if the room had been filled it would have commanded £225, extortionate. We handed over the cash…no bill, no receipt and later discovered through Trip Advisor that he runs it for a couple who own it and used to run it…don’t want to cast aspersions but he’s running it on the cheap and possibly not putting it all through the books!  We walked away and laughed!
I was very excited by our next stop…Roslyn Chapel…yes featuring in Dan Brown’s Da Vinci Code. There was a £9 entry fee and looking over we felt we wouldn’t need much time to look round, how wrong we were. We asked the lady at the entrance about the effect of the book, something she must get asked hundreds of times but was very obliging. Pre the book they had about 30,000 visitors a year, when the book came out it was 30,000 per month and at that time everyone was a volunteer and quite elderly but they coped. It’s settled now but they still have around 200,000 a year. We chose the right year as the metal canopy covering the chapel, enabling it to dry out has recently been removed and the new entrance and shop newly built. Wow, wow, wow what an amazing place with fabulous history and such intricate masonry work. The place is like a story book with many interpretations incorporating the Knights Templar, Masons, Pagans, Christianity, the family of St Clair and much, much more. The great thing is that such old, old carvings tell many tales that cannot be ignored. There were a lot of visitors but not packed and yet Aisha and I both felt the same. I’ve been in many churches, chapels and cathedrals both empty and with visitors and always felt that eerie, churchy feeling but this was different, it felt comfortable not religious. It was like being inside a living sculpture. When Cromwell was destroying many places of worship he left this place alone as did many others through the years. We were there for about 3 hours and could have spent a lot longer, impossible to see everything. We never had time to go in the glen or to the castle ruins. The prospect of the longest drive of the trip made us move.

Grasmere was going to be the next stop but we decided to stay sooner as we wanted to go to Long Meg standing stones. The great advantage of driving through Scotland is the amazing countryside. We reached Penrith and decided it wasn’t for us so moved on. We saw nowhere suitable with vacancies so Grasmere it was and Long Meg would have to wait for another trip. We decided we may as well go to the place we stopped at on our last trip. We thought if they had vacancies we may get a reduction, no such luck, the price includes dinner, bed & breakfast and they did offer a reduction for B&B but this meant the 4 course meal was very reasonable so we booked in. We were given a better room than last time and glad the driving had stopped. Again we just had time to change having booked an early table.                                                                                                                                         A starter of goat’s cheese pate for me with juice for Aisha followed by a lemon and orange sorbet then stir fry vegetables on a bed of noodles that was really tasty but served with vegetables…why when it was a dish in itself! However I did enjoy a couple of the new potatoes. Dessert of apple crumble and custard finished the meal off nicely. I realised once upstairs I was shattered, helped along by a pint of Stella and fell to sleep around 8.30pm; yes the gigging, party going rebel; unfortunately was awake at 3.00am. I then cat napped.                                                                                                                                  And so to breakfast, on booking in I’d mentioned soya milk but it was cows’ in the jug. We asked a waitress who stated it was soya but being Spanish we weren’t sure she understood and thought she had said semi milk. We asked again and she then told us she had put some on one of the tables but didn’t offer to change it. We spoke to the other waitress, also Spanish and she returned with the carton and a jug. The breakfast menu mentioned nothing about vegetarian options but on enquiring there was vegetarian sausages then she mentioned beans, not on the menu, so we had the safe option of beans on toast with toast & jam to finish.                                                                                                                      We decided to stay a while in Grasmere after checking out. We went wandering and found the Gingerbread shop, that’s the shop selling it not made of it, didn’t open until 12.30pm being Sunday. Years previously we had walked together up the river and at another time gone skinny dipping in another part. Well we parked up and headed to the river. We could hardly believe this was the same river it was absolutely gushing and much deeper. We put our toes in at the edge and that was it then we walked along the path at the side instead picking the few wild raspberries that were left along the way!  Back to the Gingerbread shop just as people started to queue. After purchasing enough to last a week, well a few days for us, we headed off again.                                                                                                           
As it was Sunday we were hoping to find somewhere to eat a ‘carvery’ dinner, vegetarian option of course. This was when realisation hit, where have all the local pubs gone! We pushed on to Windermere avoiding the tourist area and walking into the town unfortunately in the rain. No pubs so we checked out the 2 cafes we found, no, nothing suitable. By this time it was getting late, we were very hungry and conscious some places would stop serving at 2.00pm. We did have food in the car but I was on a mission. We headed towards the Dales hoping to book into a lovely B&B in Askrigg where we’d stayed before. As we turned a corner there it was, a pub with a placard saying food served all day. Good job no-one was behind me as I quickly swerved into the car park.                                                                 We asked if they were still serving food to be told they were but the carvery had finished so I asked if there were any vegetables left being vegetarian to be told we could have the veggie option, brie, mushroom & spinach  parcel with vegetables and it was sooooo worth the wait. There was a set price to include a pudding but we had no room for anything else, however we did get it for less. The pub was Moorcock Inn 5 miles outside of Hawes.                            On to Askrigg and no vacancies but we had seen a couple of places in Hawes so back we went. Parking was quite difficult on the street but we squeezed in. The place was a B&B and cafĂ©, Laburnum, and very reasonable at £30 each for the night. With an aching back the power shower was a great relief. Yes I haven’t mentioned showers or baths before but I also haven’t mentioned all my loo visits either. Although the bath at Whitchester is worth a mention as it was huge!                                                                                                     Back to my book and listening to the heavy rain. We decided that as we had reached the Dales a day early and so close to home that we would return home the next day. We had no need to find somewhere for tea as with a late dinner we just ate what we had with us.      And so to our final breakfast and the best one yet, sausages, mushrooms, tomato and beans, the sausages were so tasty we asked what they were; Quorn Cumberland, a vegetarian friend advised them they were the best and they were lovely. We had questioned soya milk when booking in and the lady had said that she wasn’t sure if she would catch the shop so we said that we had some chocolate rice milk we could use. But no, there it was, a carton of soya milk. We chatted about the Olympic impact on business and they had been hit hard. Boris should be made to meet these business people who have lost out it’s not only London but rippled far beyond. The fringe certainly wasn’t heaving as was the same for everywhere.                                                      

Well we weren’t going to waste our final day so we drove over to Hubberholme but again only paddled in the edge of the river, gushing far more than usual. The place we parked was full of dips and huge puddles and parking on the only flat part hoped to keep others at bay. Usually along there it’s packed with cars. A couple came and went, parking at the edge and we enjoyed the sun and sheltered in the car when the clouds brought a chill. Again enjoying peaceful reading time and for me a bit of a snooze!                                                              We were considering leaving when our decision was made as a Subaru  went roaring past with a caravan attached and then came back hovering by our parking area and unloading a number of very noisy kids. So off we went and there in my back mirror was the guy reversing the caravan onto extremely uneven ground!                                        
We had already decided I would stay at Aisha’s so before getting to the house we went for a chippy supper getting something for Craig as he was working late.                                    The dog was pleased to see us.                                                                                          Next morning my angel of a daughter produced cereal, followed by veggie sausages, bacon, hash browns and beans then toast and jam, a fitting end to the holiday.                        Having been to Roslyn Chapel we decided to watch the Da Vinci Code, 1st time for Aisha. After lunch I fell asleep exhausted and still in my pyjamas. Aisha provided a lovely tea and I left about 9.00pm.

It was good to get home to the cats but I missed Aisha straight away.  
It’s Wednesday as I’m writing this and back to reality and an empty fridge so I’ve just had a tea of burger mix made into meatless balls and cooked in onion gravy on top of mashed potato and peas!

Do I really have to face the supermarket!!!   

Ooo I’ve just seen someone has a cottage available on Skye for next week starting Saturday………………………………

 

 

Saturday 11 February 2012

My Thoughts


Those who know me on Twitter know I blog about food, recipes and racy stories; however I was inspired by @crapteacher ‘s blog so here goes.

It was a refreshing change to read something that didn’t slate kids. Unfortunately the media continuously paints a horrific picture of our young people. Yes there are some things that happen that appear unforgiveable but it really is true that no child is born evil. Their behaviour may sometimes result in evil acts but usually due to some sort of mental illness, some of which there are no cures or therapies…the same for adults.
Working in education I had to read reports from schools for permanent exclusions and often found myself howling with laughter.
The first of many was when within a report one of the behaviours listed was a lad who had answered a teacher back in class, nothing unusual there but he commented in French in a French lesson. I wish I could remember what he said but it wasn’t exceptionally rude but obviously annoyed the teacher. This could have been turned around so easily into a positive response at the fact that he had enough knowledge to speak in French!                                                                                                                                                                                                        Obviously this was not the sole reason for the permanent exclusion being sought!
There were many comical retorts I read over the years and I wish I’d written them down but there were the serious issues that could also have been avoided. The verbal exchanges that built up to be aggressive and even physical responses from staff; that resulted in the youngster being penalised.     
If the young person had persistently caused problems and the school had rolled out many support strategies the reports favoured the school but they were few. Many problems could have been resolved either through support or if staff hadn’t been so obsessed with ‘winning’. The art is to come out on top showing you can be the bigger person often by giving options that make it appear it’s the choice of the youngster.
The media paints a bad picture of youngsters and yes it can be difficult for staff in school, I’ve been there but no-one speaks up about the staff treating youngsters badly, either through their attitude, lack of training or unable to cope.
I’ve had to talk to heads and governors about this treatment some of which is actually put on paper…..a court case waiting to happen. Everyone has this perception that discipline has been taken from schools and yes there is no longer corporal punishment but discipline comes from behaviour management. Unfortunately there are staff that ignore TEAM TEACH positive handling and think they can grab, push and man handle youngsters and there are schools that turn a blind eye or are happy to relay expecting no consequences with many negative behaviours escalated when staff can’t let go.                                                                                                                                                                    
Youngsters go into ‘fight or flight’ mode, allow the ‘flight’ and avoid the ‘fight’ …this is the same for parents…another blog again as parental support has to begin at an early age. If it’s safe to let a youngster strop off  then let them go…discussion can take place when both youngster and staff are calm or maybe through another staff member.
There is always a reason behind the behaviour, no not an excuse, a reason and it’s the behaviour that should be addressed especially in language that is used. Remember some of these youngsters spend hours at home being told they are ‘thick’, ‘stupid’, ‘worthless’ and ‘will amount to nothing’…sound bad well many staff use these phrases too. Get told enough that you’re ‘crap, bad, useless’ and that’s what you become. Domestic violence includes emotional abuse and I’m sure we all think that is horrific…so how is this any different…why do some believe youngsters can be used as ‘punching bags’?
When I roll out behaviour management the first thing I do is ask everyone to write down what they want out of life for their children or relatives’ children if they have none. What morals, values and ethics? When complete I ask if something happened to them and someone else brought up their children, what morals, values and ethics would they want that person to have. Well as corporate parent they are that other person and should have decent morals, values and ethics when these youngsters are in their care.
I realise some will think this fine in theory but I have spent years putting theory into practice and prevented many permanent and fixed term exclusions and ensured strategies are rolled out within the home too.
On a lighter note, when I worked in a performing arts school I witnessed some fabulous performances but not without issue. These young people chose to take performing arts and went through a rigorous interview process, parents too. Yet the times during costume rehearsals I heard youngsters whinging about what they had to wear…mainly young girls concerned what they would look like. These were supposed future actors, singers, dancers, etc who had to be reminded that in a theatre or show in ‘the real world’ would not be able to pick and choose.
There were some great theatre productions, musicals, dance and music extravaganzas that were held and I loved being a part of them….not as part of my job but as a mum.
Now I see the results with many prominent actors, singers, musicians and general performers who were former pupils.
Just remember media is about hype not truth and stereotyping and the problematic youngsters really are still the minority and never without reason.

Tuesday 24 January 2012

Cooking Lessons

I have decided to start offering cooking lessons.
I have taught members of my family and friends to cook who have never cooked before.
Most recently I  have been teaching autistic teenagers and its been so rewarding.

I can only offer this within a limited area initially although would consider further afield for specific groups.
I am offering either one off lessons or a course within people's homes as I feel this is more appropriate, using familiar equipment; for groups they should provide venues.

I will be happy to teach 1:1, families, groups of friends, children/young people, those with specific needs, learning difficulties, teenage parents, those leaving care etc

I will be advertising but appreciate word of mouth.

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Sunday 1 January 2012

Nymphomaniac or just enjoying life?

Fiona had loved her life so far and started thinking back. She was now 70 years young but to her it was just a number as it had always been!
Any regrets, well things she wished had not happened but these only made her the person she was. Things that could have changed her route were many, like the four chances she had to get married but could she have coped with that?                             She had had many partners and wondered what life would have been like if she had ‘settled down’ and did others, who had done, wished they’d been through different exploits?
Fiona had been very young when she first experienced a sexual relationship and the bloke was unaware. Fortunately he was kind and gentle so it was a loving experience and within a relationship. It didn’t last long but no-one settled down at that age.                                                                                                                        
 Now she had been introduced to sex she wanted more. In those days girls would be termed nymphomaniacs for wanting sex, usually by boys who needed girls to complete this exercise, unless gay. Through the years other terms were introduced like slapper or slag. These would be directed at girls and women but only if their exploits were known about. Fiona would never kiss and tell. Of course in the early days many of the boys knew each other and would talk.  One guy went for a walk with Fiona full of expectation but openly admitted his intent and stated he realised the rumours were not true and they walked back to the pub.
Fiona met many men in her life and yet many wanted to spend the rest of their life with her, she was either too young or as time went by felt this was not what she wanted.
She moved to many different places and made friends easily and always enjoyed male company. In the early days she learnt a lot and would later ensure where experience was lacking she would invoke excitement.                                                         
 Fiona was confident and knew she had a good body and used her eyes to entice. Men referred to them as ‘come to bed eyes’!

She was never afraid to try something new although nothing extreme. She tried many different places and not just around the house; in a shop, in cars, a hotel lounge, all very daring!                                                                                                                 
 Oh, the hotel lounge!  Now although most experiences were within relationships, even short ones, she had also had a number of one night stands.                                    She went with friends to a local hotel for late night drinks, in the days when the drinks flowed freely and most time was spent in a foggy haze. This was a hotel that often had ‘celebs’ staying there, although that terminology did not exist. Like when the Bay City Rollers stayed there and Fiona had to fight through the groupies to get to work. Well this night someone was singing in the basement bar ‘When a Child is Born’, she later wondered if it was actually Johnny Mathis but was far too drunk to know.                                                                                                                                                  She met a nice man during the evening and as everyone started to disperse her friends decided a skinny dip in the pool would round off the evening. Fiona intended to go too but as she followed through the lounge, the bloke she was with whisked her aside and they disappeared behind a sofa next to the wall.                                               One of her friends realised she was missing and decided to returned, she soon did an about turn when she found them in full copulation. Fiona had to hold back with any noise although the lounge was empty. She did wish she’d had time to go skinny dipping though!
Fiona was quite partial to having sex in the outdoors, sometimes due to circumstance but mainly out of choice, on a common, on the beach, a garden path and against a wall.                                                                                                                             
The beach experience. She had been at a party in a local village and had an amazing time, in fact she fancied the host, Simon, and took her chance with him as the party drew to a close, this would never lead to a relationship. She needed to get home and a friend of hers, Tony, was getting a taxi so they shared. As they reached the town the road paralleled the beach and he suggested they dismount there and she agreed. It was the early hours but quite a light night. They headed across the beach towards Fiona’s house when he took her hand and kissed her hard on the lips. She never knew he felt this way and he never knew how she would respond. No words were needed as they knew each other well and soon they were laid on the beach, not having sex but making love. This was the start of a long relationship. Tony was a lorry driver and away for weeks at a time, he understood she wouldn’t want to sit around waiting for him but asked her to be his partner when he came home, someone to wine and dine. Ironically during this time, although Fiona still had nights out, she stayed faithful. On one of his visits they went around a few pubs and ended up in one with live music. Fiona loved to dance and men loved to ask her. For the first time she witnessed the feelings Tony had for her as she returned from the dance floor to him asking if she was still going home with him. He had never shown his vulnerability until now, of course she was taking him home, wanting to make love, not have raw sex!                                He was so gentle and loving and considered her needs. Even after a night of drinking he caressed her body, her breasts, her stomach, her thighs, whilst kissing her neck, her ears, her lips as her hands explored his body too. He was hard and ready but waited until she was too. She raised herself on top of him and lowered herself onto his throbbing manhood. It would have been so easy to rush this especially as it was now obvious that Tony stayed faithful whilst he was away. Instead they took it slowly, changing positions and slowing the pace when he came close to releasing. The fact that they only saw each other on rare occasions made this extra special and they wanted it to last. Eventually both could resist it no longer as the pace quickened until they were both spent. Spooning into a cuddle to let sleep overtake them.
Oh the memories, yes she would always have her memories.
It became a bit of a habit, her friends becoming her lovers supposedly a better start for relationships but none lasted long.
One of these was with Chris. He had been part of her group of friends for ages and when she sprained her ankle and couldn’t walk. He was her knight in shining armour whisking her off on his motorbike as she wore one shoe and one slipper, to meet up with friends and not miss out.  He knew her for years and neither of them ever expected more. Then suddenly they were thrown together at a party where she needed to sleep over. They decided to share a bed as she had done this many times with male friends. Suddenly they were in each other’s arms, kissing, fondling and then thrusting. They were both shocked and the next day talked about giving the relationship a go. It wasn’t long before he moved in with her as they knew each other well. She also knew his family so no nasty surprises there. It lasted quite a long time but came to the point where it was no longer working. Although they both knew it, Chris was quite bitter, fuelled by his mother. The sad part was the end of a lovely friendship, but no regrets. In later years they chatted when they bumped into each other. He went on to marry a Filipino woman, as did another of Fiona’s ex, what did she do to them?
Another very good friend was Roger. He was an absolute gem and a gentleman. Fiona moved and short term lived with her parents in a large village. Although large most people knew each other and knew everyone’s business. Fiona used to go to the local pub playing darts and soon got to know people. She got asked to go to other pubs with them, to parties and the local disco. It was Roger who would offer her a lift. There was many a time after the Friday disco that everyone ended up at someone’s house and crashed there for the night. Roger was always there to take Fiona home, even when she’d crashed out with someone else. Eventually she found a bedsit but it was in the next town. No problem, Roger was happy to take her anywhere she wished.                                                                                                                                         Those discos were amazing and Fiona met many people there. One such was one of the doormen, formerly known as a bouncer. She knew how to flirt and always got in free when he was around. One night he asked her out and they went back to his house. He was funny he always had a hot water bottle heating his bed and liked his comforts. He was quite a bit older than Fiona and he amused her. This relationship didn’t last long but they stayed friends. Later Fiona felt Simon Cowell reminded her of him, a bit of a ‘mummy’s boy’.
Then there was the DJ who lived locally and they often ended the night back at his place. Roger witnessed all this but said nothing. Then one day out of the blue he asked her to marry him. They had never even kissed except a peck on the cheek and he said that he knew she wouldn’t want to be pinned down and she could continue with her relationships. Some would have jumped at the chance but she couldn’t do that to him, she was really shocked but flattered. They continued as friends and only lost touch when Fiona moved away. In the meantime he continued to chauffeur her around even when she moved into a flat in the same town and later to a house in a town closer to the village. He was there when things went wrong, a shoulder to cry on, even when he started a long term relationship. During that time when they were alone at a friend’s house, they made love. Although it was just the once it could never be deemed just sex because of the strong feelings he had for her and the love she had for him, she loved him but wasn’t in love with him and he was so tender. He shocked himself at his actions and stated he’d never done such a thing before and she knew this to be true as he was a gentleman.
Fiona went out with men her age as well as older and younger. She never had a particular type. It was always about their personality even though they were all good looking. Not the sort who know they’re good looking though.
She lived with a few partners and ironically only one of these was one of the four who proposed. All were before she was twenty five.
As she got older the relationships reduced, this was mainly due to circumstances and not being in situations where she could meet someone new.
But again she had her memories.
Back to the bedsit she had lived many years before. It was within a house full of men, ideal you would think but not so, especially when the bathroom needed cleaning!  Fiona only got to know two of the four. One lived on the same level and they shared a tiny kitchen. He had a long term girlfriend who annoyingly used her pots and pans. He was fine until he fell out with her and he spent an evening smashing milk bottles into the kitchen bin. Fiona found this scary and found solace with the guy downstairs. They had talked a lot and that evening she was explaining the uncomfortable situation and he invited her to his room. She had spent many a night listening to the orgasmic screams from the girls he brought back. They drank wine and ended up in bed together. Now she knew why they had screamed, she did too, the first time she had climaxed during penetration. How did he do that and why didn’t others. She reached such a height, somewhere she found hard to reach with anyone else. They spent a number of nights together after that with him often climbing the stairs to her room asking if she’d like to share a bottle of wine.
Then there was Neil. Fiona and he had a long term intermittent relationship. They split many times only to find their way back to each other. He was a gentle giant, very loving and kind. When they made love he always ensured he satisfied her first. They fell out over trifling things but were drawn like magnets back to each other over a number of years. When they first met he lived with his parents and Fiona with hers so they would lie on the path by the side of the house to have sex, sometimes cold and a little uncomfortable but always exciting with the added adrenalin rush that they might get caught. Later they had the luxury of a bed. Neil wasn’t that experienced but Fiona was able to change that. After all she had shown the way to two virgins in the past. One who openly asked her and another with whom she was with long-term.
Even older men were not all as experienced as Fiona and she was able to teach them a few things, enlarge their members when erect, more than they had experienced before and enable them to last hours including repeat penetrations within a short time.
Fiona’s sexual exploitations were always enjoyable and included indulging in oral sex, mild bondage, repeated copulation over many hours, sexual language and sexy lingerie with added excitement of varying positions and places.
Yes Fiona had enjoyed sex and missed it now. Yes there were sex toys but she could never imagine experiencing anything other than the real thing. How easy it was for men to go out, find someone and indulge in a night of sex. Fiona had been that girl but as she got older this was harder to achieve. Although there was a glimmer when she met a doorman in recent years that she often chatted to and he suggested they have sex together. Fiona was tempted and for a split second the excitement of such an act came rushing back but no, she no longer wanted that. A difficult situation as she knew she didn’t want a long term relationship and still wanted sex but maybe she wanted something in between.
Her memories kept her alert and she knew if she met someone now she would still engage in the same sexual intimacies although maybe not as often!